Whatever you decide to do you have to stay determined. Determined that it will all work out in your favor. Determined that you will not give up and give it your all. Consistently failing and not having things work out in my favor helps me stay determined. From applying to jobs and not getting any calls back and going to interviews not moving on.
But I do not let the little setbacks hold me back. Neither should you let them hold you back and discourage you. I love the journey of getting to a place where you are achieving your set goals. The people who do not let you learn from your failures are not helping you.
The reason I say that the more you fail the more determined you become. Well for me that is how I have been able to develop the mental fortitude to withstand many things. Skateboarding provided me with the process of falling down and getting back up to accomplish my goal of landing the trick.
Being determined is good and can cause you to forget about yourself. By forgetting about yourself and taking care of yourself can do more harm than good. The harm of eating like crap (which is something I fall victim to) can show us how out of control we can get.
Staying determined while at the same time having discipline to take care of yourself. Getting lost in the process is so easy to do and having your focus become tunnel vision. I learned how scary tunnel vision is when we moved from NC to down here to South Florida. Because when I was driving I go tunnel vision and was slowly drifting off the road.
Lets get back on topic do your best to stay determined that what you are wanting to do you will keep going. You will keep at it until it works and also realize when the time to just stop makes sense. There comes a time when you will get bored with something and lose motivation. But you have to be honest with yourself and say “Am I wasting time and do I still have motivation to do it or not?”.
Taking Actions on our ideas at first is a very scary thing to do. Because we can either be scared of the success that will come from achieving our goals. As well as not knowing how to deal with the success that comes from the hard work we have put in. You may think what are you talking about being afraid of success and what comes from it.
I am only speaking from what I used to deal with mentally awhile ago. So I’d say if you know deep down in your heart that you want to be successful prepare yourself for it. There are going to be a lot of things that can seem to come all at once. Which will lead you to be overwhelmed.
I am very thankful for my parents and family for raising me the way that they did. Even though at times I was a very rebellious type and wanted to do the things I wanted. But you know they never ever forced me to not think big. Nor did they ever tell me to not go after what it is that I wanted.
So this leads me to the mindset that many graphic designers/creative individuals fall into, which is creating just to create. As well as not sharing my work with everyone. There are certain projects that seriously should not be shared. As well as not feeling accomplished enough to put out products for people to have and enjoy.
When I started selling products on my Etsy shop and seeing them in the wild I was even more fulfilled. Because instead of them sitting in my bedroom office collecting dust they are being enjoyed. Learning to think bigger has been fun.
As well seeing the value in my work, whether it be graphic design, Calligraphy and Products I create. But I do not want you to think I was not afraid to start selling my own products. The main thing I had to do was make a decision. Making the decision of I am not going to create products just for me.
Then having the mentality that I am going to make sure that I will create items that I would hang up in my home and use. This mentality is what helps me continuously create work that I am proud of.
If you are just starting out creating products and being a designer be honest with yourself. First by knowing whether you work is something you are proud of. Also whether it is something that you would like to have your name attached to. The reason I mention that is because you want to have the types of clients/Customers who appreciate the quality of work that you do.
Think of the possibilities that your work can turn into.
The Journey is Everything
Learning as a creative person you have to believe in yourself more than anyone else. This is definitely a requirement that helps you get through the rejection letters. The rejection letters that are pre-written and say the usual “we’ve decided to proceed with a different candiate”. I do not let those demotivate me.
Instead of getting upset by them I don’t really care who turns me down. The reason is because I learned that I do have the ability to go beyond, what the person who sees my resume sees. I also had to take back the power of those people whom we’d think are in charge of our careers.
The best thing to realize that you are in charge of your career. Then you have to be willing to be honest with yourself. Also being willing to go through what you have to do what it is that you want. Believe me creating youtube videos, writing blog posts, running an etsy shop are not easy. As well as posting daily to instagram.
The way how I am able to do these things without getting burnt out is that I enjoy them. Also knowing that I know what it takes and that it takes time has helped me. Believing in yourself is not something that comes overnight and never will.
Each day is more of a test on yourself and if you can believe in yourself and or sit around and waste time. Doing things that you enjoy repeatedly can become habitual and easy. If you are going through a creative block take time to realize why you are in one and then what fires you up.
So with all of this said please do your best to not let anyone believe in you more than yourself. As a creative individual and or a business person stop being scared and just go for it. Whatever it is that you want to go for, do it the smart way. Don’t make the mistake of putting yourself in a bad situation. An example of being at a job that is ok for you and then just deciding one day, “I’m done and I quit”.
Then with making that choice you will put yourself in a tough situation and starve yourself of the needed mental clearness. I’m not saying doing that is a bad thing. More so to be more strategic with your plans you make.
A Real Loser is someone who knows how to win but chooses not to.
This a quote from Andy Frisella. I was watching instagram stories and he had this on one of his clips. I will have to say it hit home. Because I thought of the times in my life when I was skateboarding, and there were tricks I knew I could land but I just didn’t give it my all. I was giving it about 90% and I knew I could land the trick.
But guess what I didn’t land the trick and I knew exactly how to land it. There are many things like that in our life and choices we make. The time is never too late to make the change.
Nothing changes if nothing changes. Simply saying if you do not make the simple change needed then nothing will change for you. This goes for you slacking off and not doing things you know you should be doing. Instead of doing them you’ve grown used to not doing them. We have these grand ideas for what we want to achieve and do in our lives, but we tend to take the easy path. The easy path is a routine that we have gotten used to doing day by day. This is one thing I’ve noticed about myself and I’ve been pushing myself to do things that I used to do but let fall to the side. Really in a sense of getting back to what I did early in my design career and how wide eyed I was with everything , working on design project and etc. Calligraphy is such a wonderful thing and I love having connected with so many of you and thank you all for supporting me as well as purchasing products and as simple as clicking the link and seeing what I have. I’m forever grateful 🙏🏾. Thank you and now let’s continue this journey.
In our life we tend to end up chasing people instead of our dreams. I for one fell into the trap of chasing people more than my actual dreams. But once I stopped chasing people and refocused my vision on chasing my dreams I became more focused on my goals.
The people that we want and need in our life will come and stay. Once I learned this I stopped chasing those people who wanted to leave and not be involved with me anymore. A great example is the feeling you get when someone deletes you off of snapchat and or unfollows you on instagram,twitter for example.
Because wanting that human connection with someone else can be a need that we need to constantly feel. But if you are needing and or wanting the wrong thing it can end up being the wrong thing for you. Just think if you focused on your goals as a creative and or person in general how much more beneficial will that be for you?
As a creative person whether you are an artist, designer, or you do anything that requires creative thinking there’s tons of things that will take your attention. There’s a lot of products, ads, videos that will grab you and take hold. The way that I have been able to avoid them and or take back control is a very simple thing.
The way that I used to get so lost in the things that do not matter is astounding. I was so lost in reading tons of blogs and looking at so much work that others have done. Not saying that stuff is stupid at all. The stupid thing is me spending time doing something that is not working in my favor. That habit is easy to be learned.
When I gained control over knowing ok that’s enough time you’ve spent looking at work and reading blogs. The over exposure to being influenced can lead to you being demotivated and not having confidence. But maybe that will inspire you to continuously improve and learn to know what to do and not to do.
Other stupid things is to not be able to work with what you’ve got. Society has us thinking we have to have certain tools to be able to produce. The tools that you have you shouldn’t be a hindrance. Because once you gain the skills you need having better tools will only allow you to get better.
Avoid the stupid things of thinking you are not good enough. Well you know that I was not good enough. I was not good enough to be confident in my work. Then I was able to gain confident by posting my work daily on my instagram page. Once you gain the momentum and also finding friends who are into the same thing as you makes a difference. There is no need to feel you’re a lone wolf.
Avoid the stupid things of thinking followers and likes make the difference. The stupid thing of basing your worth on others does no good for you. The numbers do not make that big of a difference. I say that because I would rather have 10,000 followers 2000 devoted supporters compared to having 20,000 followers with 200 supporters.
There’s endless amount of stupid things you have to make the choice whether you will avoid them or not.
Ever since I started learning calligraphy I learned one secret. The best way to get better it is to practice daily. The same thing can be applied to many other things. Because the daily practice no matter how long it is will help you improve much faster.
There were many days I felt as if I was not improving and or all of my work was starting to look the same. One of the main reasons i’d say was because of how I was practicing and studying. There are many ways you can improve in any field.
You have to practice and study. By study I mean you have to look at what others around you are doing. Because if you have no idea what they are doing then how will you know what to aim for. Another thing is remembering practicing is good, but if you are not focused while practicing you will waste time.
The aspect of having a dedicated time of focused practice no matter how long will make the difference. Because if you want to practice writing calligraphy, but you are trying to multi task and or you’re being interrupted you will most likely not have great results. Being able to block out all distractions and etc will help you.
Practicing calligraphy daily will motivate you to want to get better each day. One of the main things is to learn the basics first before trying advanced techniques.
This is a quote I heard recently from the Creative Peptalk podcast. When I first heard it I was at a loss for words. The reason why is because I focused so much on getting bigger instead of better. The aspect of having a lot of followers has been a thing that many of us want. When in actuality we should focus on getting better.
Because the idea of focusing on getting better is more important. Those who focus on getting more followers than having better work will have catching up to do. The reason why I focused so much more on producing better work is because I know I am producing great work. Having confidence in your work is what makes the difference.
There’s nothing wrong with being confident, but being a cocky asshole makes no sense. Because we all start somewhere and have produced sub-par work. But lets not get off topic here and stay focused.
There have been times on instagram that I am shocked by the amount of followers people have. But then I do a little digging and realize that they either know how to market themselves well and or they are caught up in the numbers. Because its easy to see who’s caught up in the numbers and appearing bigger than they actually are. The like to follower ratio is the giveaway.
Focusing on producing better work and dedicating yourself to being better than those with bigger followings will allow you to have leverage. I say leverage because whenever you have someone come across your work they will be in love. The main thing with all of this is to not forget that you have to share you work. Do not be afraid to do such a thing. Because I know that you have work many people would love to see.